10 Signs You're Talking to a Fake Friend
"Have you notice a smile on their face when you disclose any failure or their face become dull when you tell your achievements".
This post hopefully will serve as a wake up call for some out there. Life is difficult by design, so the last thing you want are people holding you down and making it even more difficult than it already is. Keep in your mind your closest so-called friends and evaluate how well they behave in certain situations as we go down this list.
FAKE FRIENDS- If they don't encourage you to pursue your goals and instead try to put you down, well you've got a fake friend on your hands. They will say things like "You can't do it" they will mock your desire. To worse your situation, they will give you a long list of people who failed at what you are currently trying to do and suggest "You shouldn't even try and give up".
REAL FRIENDS-Real friends discuss the event which led to their argument and come out of it stronger.
REAL FRIENDS- If someone's a real friend, they don't want to spark drama just for the sake of it especially in the circle you care about. Gossip for the sake of drama is a sign of emotional immaturity and people use it willingly and unwillingly in order to safeguard their positions.
These people are never the leader in a group and usually never get to be the dominant one, they play both sides and when the conflict gets reconciled they are usually the ones left behind.
Sometimes, they might even mask it like some sort of trade where they help you with something small and then end up asking something big in return. It's the little ways they behave when there is something for them to earn or win.
These people usually use others to climb up the ladder. You will encounter them in the workplace, schools and colleges. It's the same people who take credit for work and ideas they didn't have. Your goal is to read these kind of people from the beginning and only befriend those who act in the best interest of the group.
They're jealous of your success instead of being genuinely happy when you achieve something. Personal success allows you to carefully analyze how other people behave towards you. Some of you achieve financial success in the near future and your relationships will suffer because it will expose people who they really are.
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The belief that you have someones else's back and they are yours is the foundation of how societies have been built. That's why a betrayal of this sort hurts so much.
It's not that your friend didn't intervene when someone was bad-mouthing you or join in when a few guys started picking on you, they betrayed the bond and now you're left alone in the wilderness of life.
"Real friends would take personal damage to protect a bond they value".
This happens when the circumstances dictate for people to go through a challenge or prolonged period of time together. You will see this with some friendships you build in high school or childhood.
In the moment you believe that friendship will last forever but people change and grow once the circumstances change and you have other options which are not forced on you by the environment. Some friendships will die because they weren't built to last.
People behave like friends when it's easier to overcome a challenge together than alone but don't confuse this type of social partnership with true friendship.
This is an interesting way to look at the relationship you have because real friends make fun of each other constantly but it's a very interesting approach to the way they do it.
On the other side of this coin, you'll find people who never miss an opportunity to ridicule their so-called friends especially if it makes them look better in the eyes of someone new.
This is one of the earliest traits of bond building if the relationship evolves to a point where this type of pillar can be put into place you can build something that will last. Fake friendships lack pillars of this nature they gravitate around superficiality and there's always this mist that blocks you from knowing who a person really is.
In order for them to be able to renounce their current position, they will never build solid, they have no anchors and its best to not expose your vulnerabilities in front of them because they'll likely use them to facilitate the entrance to a new group.
Once you start to understand how other people think, it's almost like a superpower. We've always been about how the mind works and psychology between interpersonal relations.
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This post hopefully will serve as a wake up call for some out there. Life is difficult by design, so the last thing you want are people holding you down and making it even more difficult than it already is. Keep in your mind your closest so-called friends and evaluate how well they behave in certain situations as we go down this list.
1. They don't support your vision and they put you down
REAL FRIENDS- Real friends call you out on your bullshit and support you when you are doing something right. This is probably the best sign to diagnose your relationship. They are supposed to know you better than anyone else.
FAKE FRIENDS- If they don't encourage you to pursue your goals and instead try to put you down, well you've got a fake friend on your hands. They will say things like "You can't do it" they will mock your desire. To worse your situation, they will give you a long list of people who failed at what you are currently trying to do and suggest "You shouldn't even try and give up".
2. They don't man up and apologize when they are wrong
FAKE FRIENDS- Another easy to spot sign is when they put their personal pride over the relationship you have. Real men and women know when they are wrong and are strong enough to embrace it, they will accept they made a mistake and apologize for the way they behaved.
REAL FRIENDS-Real friends discuss the event which led to their argument and come out of it stronger.
3. They talk about other people behind their back
FAKE FRIENDS- If they gossip about your others friends when they are not around, they gossip about you with them when you are not around.
REAL FRIENDS- If someone's a real friend, they don't want to spark drama just for the sake of it especially in the circle you care about. Gossip for the sake of drama is a sign of emotional immaturity and people use it willingly and unwillingly in order to safeguard their positions.
These people are never the leader in a group and usually never get to be the dominant one, they play both sides and when the conflict gets reconciled they are usually the ones left behind.
4. They take more than they give
You can usually tell who are the leeches in a group. They are always the ones looking to spread their own agenda at the expense of others or even at the expense of the relationship.
Sometimes, they might even mask it like some sort of trade where they help you with something small and then end up asking something big in return. It's the little ways they behave when there is something for them to earn or win.
These people usually use others to climb up the ladder. You will encounter them in the workplace, schools and colleges. It's the same people who take credit for work and ideas they didn't have. Your goal is to read these kind of people from the beginning and only befriend those who act in the best interest of the group.
5. They don't clap when you win
This is one of our favorite sayings "Be careful of people who don't clap when you win". These are actually haters pretend as your friends.
They're jealous of your success instead of being genuinely happy when you achieve something. Personal success allows you to carefully analyze how other people behave towards you. Some of you achieve financial success in the near future and your relationships will suffer because it will expose people who they really are.
6. They don't stand up for you
We are social animals so there's always some tension in social environments, this is one of the reasons we have friends in the first place. It's easier and safer to go out into the world together than alone.Related- 5 most common dreams you shouldn't ignore
The belief that you have someones else's back and they are yours is the foundation of how societies have been built. That's why a betrayal of this sort hurts so much.
It's not that your friend didn't intervene when someone was bad-mouthing you or join in when a few guys started picking on you, they betrayed the bond and now you're left alone in the wilderness of life.
"Real friends would take personal damage to protect a bond they value".
7. You are friends because you have a similar objective not similar mindsets
In the moment you believe that friendship will last forever but people change and grow once the circumstances change and you have other options which are not forced on you by the environment. Some friendships will die because they weren't built to last.
People behave like friends when it's easier to overcome a challenge together than alone but don't confuse this type of social partnership with true friendship.
8. They ridicule you in front of others to make themselves look better
"If you are the laughingstock of the group, you're probably in the wrong group".This is an interesting way to look at the relationship you have because real friends make fun of each other constantly but it's a very interesting approach to the way they do it.
On the other side of this coin, you'll find people who never miss an opportunity to ridicule their so-called friends especially if it makes them look better in the eyes of someone new.
9. You only have superficial conversations
Trust comes from being vulnerable in front of someone else and them not taking advantage of the situation instead they respond by bringing forth their own vulnerability for you to see, that way both parties commit to not acting out against each other's best interest and instead behave as a group.
This is one of the earliest traits of bond building if the relationship evolves to a point where this type of pillar can be put into place you can build something that will last. Fake friendships lack pillars of this nature they gravitate around superficiality and there's always this mist that blocks you from knowing who a person really is.
10. They will leave you behind if something better came along
Another sign you're dealing with someone whose intentions are not genuine is they would gladly trade your relationship for another if they saw something better to gain from it. Always be careful of people who are leap frogging from relationships to relationship.
In order for them to be able to renounce their current position, they will never build solid, they have no anchors and its best to not expose your vulnerabilities in front of them because they'll likely use them to facilitate the entrance to a new group.
Once you start to understand how other people think, it's almost like a superpower. We've always been about how the mind works and psychology between interpersonal relations.
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Cheers
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